Today we’re digging into what it takes to make the impossible happen. While this challenging process is applicable in various periods and areas of our lives, it is especially useful when we’re doing the work to rise up and come back in the aftermath of challenging chapters and big life transitions. In these moments, a lot of things feel impossible, but the truth is, anything that feels impossible is a clue sound where we need to shift our way of being, adopting a new paradigm from which to engage with everything and everyone around us. This is not easy work, but looking deeply at our subconscious programming and winning strategies, allows us to make the impossible possible.
What to Listen For:
- My favorite book – The Last Word on Power by Tracy Goss
- My five-phase matrix for calling your desire forward and making the impossible possible
Phase One – Uncover your impossible desires
“What feels impossible to you from where you stand now? What, if it were possible would be worth dedicating yourself, your time, your energy, and your attention to? The thing about what feels impossible to us is that it clues us into our deep desires. And sometimes our secret visions. We often keep these desires and visions close to our hearts.”
- Common reasons we might ignore our own desires
- The truth about our desires – we can’t have the desire for something that isn’t actually possible for us
“Possibility is not a promise. It’s a call to action. You have to do the work to change your context.”
- Stepping into a new way of being in the world
- Taking entirely different actions to move your desire into reality
- Identifying your desires – even if you don’t have the whole picture
“You just have to have a starting point. So you might not know what it means to find healing and a new sense of wholeness. You just know that you want it and that it feels impossible. You may not know what it looks like to have a deeply connected, supportive, nurturing partnership. You just know that you want it and that it feels impossible. You might not have any idea what it means to have a successful thriving business or career where you make a ton of money every year. You just know that you want it, and that it feels impossible.”
Phase Two – Eliminate your stoppers
“Our subconscious stoppers are the things that keep us from taking any action towards what we say we want. And they’re also the things that cause us to self-sabotage when we finally managed to make some progress towards our impossible desires and visions. The reason for this is that our subconscious mind is wired to keep us exactly where we are, even if it’s painful and uncomfortable because it knows that what’s known and familiar are things we can survive.”
- My own, personal patterns of stopping
- How our subconscious programming shows up though our winning strategy
- How our winning strategies keep us stuck
- Our unique core wounds – how they are developed and the role they play in how we move through this world
“In order to win and succeed in life, we start to lean on a specific strategy that inherently reinforces the idea that only some things are possible and that we must operate in a specific way to stay safe, secure, and successful. This becomes so ingrained in our way of being in the world that we don’t even realize it’s happening”
- Identifying your winning strategy in four parts
- Part 1 – What are you listening for?
- Part 2 – From what actions do you expect power?
- Part 3 – What is the desired outcome?
- Part 4 – What are you trying to avoid?
Phase Three – Decide and declare
“Deciding and declaring are critical for making the impossible happen once we decide and not just like, ‘Oh yeah, I think maybe I’ll try and make this happen,’ but full mind, body, and soul decide that it is happening, it allows us to begin shifting our way of being in the world. Once we shift our way of being so much becomes possible and accessible for us.”
- How deciding and declaring brought be back from the pits of my PTSD
- Deciding and declaring I would get my mind back
“I decided that I would get my brain back and declared that it was possible. If my brain could be rewired that deeply in one single moment, there was a way to wire it back.
Inside that decision and declaration, I immediately organized all of myself around it, even though it felt so unbelievably impossible from where I was. I started learning about PTSD trauma and how the brain works. Even though I literally couldn’t remember anything that I read. I worked with so many different healers and modalities. I pushed the limits of my brain until failure so that I could stretch it more and more. I did so many things that I hadn’t been able to do before I had decided. And I have gotten my brain back. It took years of deciding, declaring, and acting in alignment to get it back. But yeah, it’s back. It’s different, yes. But it’s back.”
- Running out of money in the middle of Iowa and deciding right then and there, that it was time to grow my business again, build my team, and make a ton of money
- Dreaming about moving to the mountains and camping in a 4Runner – Deciding and declaring I would make this happen, and actually doing it!
- Don’t fall into the “someday” trap
“Someday, we’ll find a way to pay off debt and be financially free. Someday, we’ll move. Someday, we’ll start our business. Someday, we’ll be happy. It can be far sooner than you believe, but you have to decide that it will be and declare it as such. And this is such a key step that often gets skipped over because we’re scared.”
Phase Four – Clear the path
“Once we’ve decided and declared, we have to become the clearing for our impossible vision. We do that through our way of being and not just doing things differently. Change and transformation are two very different things. We create change by altering what we’re doing, but that only leads to continuous improvement around what we’ve already determined is possible for us.
When we alter our way of being in the world, we are able to create true transformation for ourselves because we are shifting the context and paradigm that we’re operating from. And that allows what was once impossible to become possible. Then that new way of being influences what we do and how we do it, which moves our new possibility into a reality.”
- How to call our future and our future selves in the now by being them
- Once you’ve decided and declared, who do you need to be?
- The foundation needed to bridge the gap between where you want to be
Phase Five – Bridge the Gap
“This is where we start to make our impossible desires of reality. It’s all about action. That said, when it comes to making the impossible happen, it’s about the types of conversations we’re engaged in, not just what we’re doing. We use requests, promises, and declarations to continue closing the gap that we’ve already begun to bridge through our new way of being.”
- One of the key conversations we must engage in
- How “should” limits us
- Moving through stories and emotions
- Important questions to ask yourself when you find yourself in a winning strategy
- Bumping up against our edges, our triggers, our trauma, our unresolved grief, fears, and limiting beliefs
- Getting more comfortable doing big, scary, impossible things
- Repeating this process every time we go for more
“Fear and faith are the same things. Belief in something that we haven’t seen or experienced. Yet we give fear all the power. We let it carry the most weight. We decide what’s possible and impossible based on past experiences that have no relevance in the now.
Stepping into new ways of being and clearing the path requires faith. It requires the belief in what you can’t yet see while continually letting go of past experiences and interpretations. It requires faith in your ability to continually move towards what it is that you say you want, regardless of outside circumstances.”
About Stephenie Zamora:
Stephenie Zamora is a life and business coach, author of Unravel and Awesome Life Tips®, and founder of www.CallOfTheVoid.tv. Stephenie guides her clients through the process of reorienting to themselves, their lives, their relationships, and their work in a way that’s fully aligned with who they’ve become in the aftermath of challenging chapters and big life transitions. After struggling with PTSD from a sudden and traumatic loss, she navigated her own difficult healing journey, and has set out to help others find the purpose of their own path using her five-stage Journey Mapping™ process.
Access our free 8-part Journey Mapping™ sampler program and begin uncovering the purpose of your path at www.TalesFromTheJourney.tv/Free/.
Read my memoir, Unravel: Rising Up and Coming Back from a Season of Living that Damn Near Killed Me at www.TheUnravelBook.com.