Why You’re Struggling to Change and How to Repattern Your Habits

“You can engineer a new habit and way of being.”

In this episode, I’m talking about why we struggle to change at times and how we can repattern the habits that keep what we want perpetually out of reach. There’s a very simple explanation for why particular transformations feel elusive, and it’s that the old way of being is still meeting a need, and usually, it’s a need that’s far more deeply embedded in our subconscious programming that we’re aware of. Plus, it’s not just about replacing one habit or pattern with another. If you’re unaware of the underlying mechanisms at play with the existing patterns, you’ll transfer over to another “crutch,” bypassing the deeper healing work that creates true freedom. Understanding how the subconscious mind forms patterns and what those deeper needs give you tremendous leverage to truly change.

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What to listen for:

  • Discerning obvious “needs” from. deeper subconscious drivers
  • Why we can’t seem to break our detrimental patterns
  • Just because it’s clear doesn’t mean that it’s easy to change
  • Most of these habits are deeply worn neural pathways
  • The pros and cons of our tendency toward habituation

“If there’s something that you’re really struggling to change, I encourage you to give yourself grace. A neural pathway has been formed, and our brain creates these instances and opportunities for habituation so that it doesn’t have to spend all of its operating power thinking about doing these things.

  • How the subconscious mind was formed and operates
  • Uncovering the deeper need that’s being met
  • Understanding the emotions at play that created the need
  • A simple process for identifying the root of bad habits
  • Clarifying what you gain from the bad habit

“Those feelings are what allowed the need to feel met. And now you understand the framework, the mechanism that’s at play behind our habituation to certain ways of being, habits, and patterns. You can see those, so you can engineer a new habit and way of being and see what needs to be healed.”

  • Building a relationship with your emotions
  • You can’t just habituate to another “crutch” or “bandaid”
  • Resourcing yourself with tools to navigate challenging feelings
  • Looking for what needs to be processed out of your cells