How Trauma Led To Healing, Growth, Happiness And Love

“The most important thing is to build that relationship with yourself. And it sounds so simple, but it’s not because we have so much conditioning. It’s always the first piece of work.”

Episode summary:

In this episode, my life and business partner, Stephenie Zamora, openly reflects on her journey from going to school for graphic design to building a personal development-focused business, emphasizing the crucial process of building a relationship with yourself despite societal conditioning. Our conversation dives into her purpose-driven life, triggered by a quarter-life crisis and accelerated by a traumatic loss in 2014—both of which completely reshaped her trajectory. Stephenie candidly shares her struggles with PTSD, bankruptcy, health issues, and low self-worth while highlighting the power of intentionality in overcoming challenges and aligning with your right person. If you’re feeling lost and ready to align with what’s right for you, this conversation will help you take ownership and create different outcomes!

What to listen for:

  • The story of how Stephenie and I met one year ago today
  • Why purpose has been her purpose for as long as she can remember
  • Her path of going from graphic design to personal development
  • Taking the concept of personal responsibility to heart

“What did I do to allow that to happen? And the things that are out of our control, I wanna be very clear about, I would also ask, ‘What do I do now?’ Because it’s not that we manifest everything horrible that happens to us, from abuse to natural disasters to whatever else, but we are responsible for what we choose to do after that.

  • How Stephenie’s quarter-life crisis shifted her career trajectory
  • The traumatic loss in 2014 that flattened her entire life
  • How she navigated PTSD, bankruptcy, and a slew of health issues
  • The power of intentionality that brought us together

“I really dug in and got clear, asking, ‘What’s the right life for me?’ I had spent so much of my life aligning with the people I was with, so I decided that I wanted to buy a camper. I wanted to go home to New Mexico. I wanted to move towards owning land. I wanted to focus more on the work that I’m here to do. And in doing that, I feel like the work that I did last year, very intentionally, which is very similar to what you were doing, is what led us to finally meeting.

  • Being in the right place to be ready for the right relationship
  • How these experiences taught Stephenie to trust herself above all else
  • The harm of giving her power away to people she thought knew best
  • Stephenie’s process for learning to trust herself again, including moving away

Everyone told me I was running away, and it certainly looked like that, but I did it very intentionally to step outside of relationships, to go be by myself and to be isolated so that I could hear myself again. Because, and this is true for so many people, what’s right for me is generally different than what most people do or what’s right for most people.”

  • The importance of aligning with your truth
  • Questions you can ask yourself to live your purpose
  • The importance of understanding your subconscious winning strategy 
  • Processing your stored traumas for true freedom


About Stephenie Zamora

Stephenie Zamora is an author and coach, business and marketing strategist, and co-founder of Choose Your Calling™—a new revolution in purpose, contribution, and creative solutions for systemic and social issues. Her work has been merging the worlds of personal development, digital media, and online marketing to help individuals build purpose-driven lives and businesses for nearly two decades, and her content helps catalyze individuals on their healing and growth journeys so they can uncover the purpose of their path, step into who they’re here to be, and do the work they’re here to do.

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